Support for family members whose loved one is bipolar

Is your daughter aware of her abusive behavior? It seems to me that you are the only stable person in the twins lives. They must need and care for you. I have an 8 year old daughter that I have tried to leave behind many times by attempting suicide. But now I am realizing that no matter how hard it gets she needs and cares for me so therefore I am never truly alone. Maybe you need to set boundaries for your daughter. It's very hard to do for our children because we love them unconditionally. However, when a child, especially as an adult, becomes abusive there is no room for continuing to let her destroy you. She, I assume, needs help and if she's not seeking help that is no different than a drug addict who refuses to admit they have a problem. It's destructive behavior and it's putting you and your loved ones in harms way. You should not feel the need to give up on life but rather turn the other cheek and stop being the victim. Take back the control in your life. When I became abusive both physically and mentally towards my mom she completely cut me out of her life. Once I started to acknowledge that I had a problem and began my journey to becoming more stabilized my mom began to open back up again. I pray for you that your daughter is not too far gone to seek help but as long as you let her continue to destroy your very own soul she will never see the damage she is causing. Tough love is hard but sometimes rewarding work. Be strong for your son and your twins. If they don't have you they will end up in a bad place. Seek out counseling and possibly medication to help you overcome depression. There is always hope. Place yourself around supportive people. Coming here was a good start. Do as I do. Post your thoughts, fears, or concerns as they come in. Someone on here is always listening. Believe me. You are not alone. My prayers go out to you. Good luck.

ty Rikkio for such a sincere message. u r right on the money with your comments. I have been seeing a counseler for many years and i do take medication for depression. i have gone so far as to give up a beautiful home and ran away and hid from my daughter for 3 years. i have PTSD so bad from her that sometimes just to see her coming will suck the air out of the room i am in. i have been the strong and responsible one all of my life. i know my grandchildren and son need me but Rikkio i am so so tired. i have this amazing relationship with my creator and have had since i was 28 yrs. old. i hope that i can regain the courage to want to live. i have a mass in my lung, thyroid and jaw. i have refused treatment and done the legal work to be a DNR. i am just so afraid of living. the very thought of being on the other side where love is free constantly calls me. so here is hoping that i can get myself together and stay a while longer. ty again friend. i will lift your name in my prayers.
Sincerely
LaLu

Rikko said it all there to me, just like to add Love to you LaLu, I hope you find the strength to want to stick around here for a bit if you can do. I'm sorry to hear of your suffering, it sounds awful. I'm bipolar and go very manic at times and my family unfortunately quite often cop the verbal from that, I don't mean a word of it and am always mortified once the mania has gone. Try and stick around for a bit maybe, see those twins get a little older. Love to you LaLu. xxx

So much love and understanding. I am starting to not feel so alone. My heart wants to cry. ty for your insight Robbie coming from my daughter's view. I need to hear that. My daughter is totally unaware of her doings. I will lift your name up in prayer as I have Rikkio. True blessings for me. Goodnight and sleep well.
LaLu

i was too strong of a person for too long. anyone that knows me thinks that of me. in my mind i always felt like i never could have the luxury of being weak. well i shouldn't say never. but for me to be weak meant a full blown nervous breakdown. when i was a teenager and i stopped talking for 3 months. i had seen a very horrible thing that cost me the world that i knew to be safe at that time. "mama, do u think God will let me be normal for just one day?" My mentally handicapped son asked me one day while we were camping and some kids had picked on him. I was so strong for all of his questions but I always wanted to go dig a hole and bury myself in it after i had put an emotional bandaide on my sweet sweet son. now my bipolar daughter has this terrible mouth and two days ago she told my son, her brother, "just go on you retard." that was the last time she will ever do that as long as i am living. i will run her over with my car i think. she is a horrible horrible person that i wish i had never given birth to. i hate the very sight of her. have u ever read the book, "toxic people?" we she is so toxic to everyone that it would take a book to write her story of chaos, carnage and all the other sad words i can think of. three days ago she got in my face literally and balled up her big fist and said she was going to smash my face in. two days ago she told me that she was going to kill me. oh wow, i think she has already done that. i dismissed my home health nurses yesterday because i don't want them to know that i am stopping my medications. i am a little scared of the actual pain that i will have to go through without meds. but they r keeping me alive and i am not afraid of dead. it is only this body that dies. the true me will never die. it is not illegal to stop my meds.. i just hope that when i post about what i am feeling during this time, that i will hear words of encouragment for my journey. i have no one that i can share this with, without them freaking out and telling me that a person should keep on living no matter what. i know that i am being weak in my decision but know that i will have to be so strong to slowly stop breathing when i know that i have meds to keep me going. i don't know anyone who has loved the beauty of God's creations than i have. I JUST CAN NOT DO THE CRAZIES ANY MORE. thanks lalu

You are not alone.hang in there :)

I'd look at getting your daughter taken into hospital, she sounds ill to me, I don't know her to call this one but there is also a difference between ill and nasty, though they can look the same.

Might it not be worth sticking around for your son for a bit?

We're all headed the same way here, every single person here is bound to the same ultimate fate, something you're having to face at the moment. The question then is why to live? I don't know what your faith is, but speaking as a crazy if there is a God, everything here is part of that creation, the handicapped people and the crazies and all of everything else in the rich and sometimes horrific array of human beings. When it comes to people who might understand being defeated and wanting to die, you're probably in the right place here. I'm not physically ill, but I well understand the place you are in your head, I've hand enough of this now, I don't want to be here or look at any of it any more, just let me die. Plenty of people do come to the conclusion that you seem to have, and do just that in one way or another. You sound to me like a person who has great faith, maybe we can help each other. I too was a person of faith, a faith that has transited though various beliefs if you like, but now I have lost that totally, but I will pose you a question. If the right thing to do is to give up fighting for life and striving to do whatever you can for the people around you while you are here, from a Christian view point, being a prophet and knowing the end he was going to meet and the great suffering he was to go though, why did Jesus not just throw himself off that cliff and have done with? He was going to be dead within a matter of weeks in any case so why not just opt out of it a bit soon? Look forward to hearing back from you Lalu.