I myself, is also going thru a hard time financially. I lost my job, six months ago. I got hurt on the job and they fired me. I have been going thru this whole long legal process to get it back. It seems like things get better one day and the next more problems add to the mix. So I know how you feel.

This economy is tough, but the fact that you are looking for a job, doing housework, and know that your ex is a problem shows that you have a lot of strength and courage.

There are a lot of programs in most areas that can help you in your time of need. For the resume, I would google a free template and start from there. For the clothes, I would try the goodwill or salvation army. They have a lot of nice clothes and usually have 50% a specific color each day.

I would also try a catholic charities group, they can help you with all your issues by providing counseling, clothing, job placement and even temporary housing.

You are a strong person and you are never alone. I am always here to help and so are other people on this forum. You can get through this.

Thank you thank you thank you for the strengh and kind words and suggestions.
I needed them all badly. Sometimes I just feel like I cant go on and dont want to. You made me feel like im doing ok and have some hope. Needed that thank you :) You hang in there too they cant get awsy with fireing you ! Good Luck !

Hey Ell, sorry crap is falling again. Rollercoaster sucks. Is lease is stbx name or did a hole put in your name. See if you can change to his name so he is liable. Maybe he should move out and you move back home. I'd rather see that than anything.

Thinking of you. You truly ate strong even when you feel your not. Anyone would feel and react the same way with all the BS you've put up with.

Somehow it just never gets easier every time the pigeon poops does it. That's why we need to lean on each other. Together there is nothing we can't do. I believe in you.

Love ya

hey Elle Sorry sweetie for all the turmoil you are going through. I love FreshStarts suggestion actually. You may have enough tools now to be in the home and learn to be "relatively non-reactive." I like the other ideas you have posted around too.

I had a little Pigeon Poop Reversal. The debt Shitl had allowed to go into collections... when I spoke to them they took the "late charges," of 6 months away. It was kind of them to do.

Sorry for your misfortune i refuse to carry dead weight not even my own if you can afford a room or get into a womens shelter to regroup i would do that. Trying to depend on undependable people is dead i cant trust no one now and that's not good. I am going to the VA to regroup and work on my issues this is my story. May God bless you he blessed me, my son is now 30 years he was 2 when old when his mother ran off I was in the army then (20yr) . At least you have some one in your life I don't. I spent the holiday alone I had no turkey. I came to a conclusion I need to got for treatment at the VA on monday. My 13 and 14 year old live with my estranged wifewife for 9years. she seperated the family in 2003 she wants to make it work now and now realizes they need their father. I tryied to live with them during the summer but they have learnt to live without a father. But my son wants me to be their but they learnt ingnorance from their mother. I came from a one parent home my father died when I was 6years old my mother taught us well and were raised with respect. Their mother is liberal and she is not a disaplenary they have attitudes because of it but I keep them in check. But when I do she trying telling me thats enough. I moved out 10/2012 I had to because it was going to get ugly. I relaped and I am going for treatment monday. I want to be a father and/husband but her pride and arrogance won't let me. I never hit her but in 2003 I put her up against the wall because of the same reason. I wanted to be a husband to her

I hope you don't think I am probing, I just like to try to help your pain. I am lamatheid and I know how you feel. I have no friends either none!! I moved from my wifes house about a month ago after being seperated for 9+ years my children don't understand me. my estranged wife don't believe in me. I relapsed because of loneliness I am not working, i am in school online but I feel like I am not worthy I feel inferior not working.
I decided to go to the VA to get treatment next week. I live alone and I have no friends no acquaintences. I pickup to get some joy in my life but its all more misery. Thank God, you have someone around. I have no one my children love me but they cant show it or their mother. I told her I did not love her and the divorse court date is coming in the mail. I call but noone answers I been lonely for 19years at lest probably more. Going to treatment and taking time off from school right now will benefit me. I need to be around people I feel like dying at times. Whats going to happen is when I get my deposit I'll pay my rent and other bills maybe and do some shopping for the month and then party and I'll get sick then have to strain my brains to do my school work and that really sucks.
Talking about feeling like a worm, guilty, shame ,angry, lonely, worthless,just wanting to stay in bed and sleep as long as you can. My way out now is to go to the VA and get into treatment and pbe around people. I need that boost so when I come home i'll have a program again, I know the down fall going to and fro self help meeting and therapy but I have to do it. I know the way out and this is it if I have to take medication I will I need people in my life I need a balance. I hope you get to know your way out and just take that route. This week end I am just going to get my self mentally ready and write my landlord and tell him I'll pay him when I get back.

I too am tired of being scared elle. For me I am probably more frightened of the terrible prospect of J not getting his life on an even keel. That forecasts certain failure for me either way I look. I have been unable to detach from my child and having the ability to move forward for "us." Too hard today. Too hard every day. So I keep plugging away at creating a consistently manageable home life and attempting different methods so everyday issues will calm. I hardly have time to think of, or be frightened of, the highly important survival problems. I can't survive pulling another up the hill I must climb, see? All I can supply today is great understanding.