coping with losing a baby with bipolar.

Well. I don't know what your philosophy on life is, religion, or whatnot- but, if you want to take comfort in some scientific theory... Mass and Energy can neither be created nor destroyed. If we consider our bodies are organic machines made of mass, energy then is that which powers those machines. Therefore, after a person dies, where does that mass an energy go? Since it never was created, and can never be destroyed. It must go somewhere.

Personally I like to think when we lose someone they are not really gone. Reborn, in heaven, in the afterlife, whatever you like- but the idea is, they are never really gone from us and it is POSSIBLE they could return again. Thus, if you think about it, we never really lose someone- even as we ourselves are lost. We simply... change. And life is change. So as long as all this mass and energy is changing... nothing really dies.

Still, loss never really stops. After all. Why would we want to forget about someone? The way we remember them is what matters. Do we feel only sorrow and unhappiness at their passing? Or do we remember the good feelings and memories. After which always comes the possibilities, what could they have been, was it my fault... but regret and guilt are only poisons to life... and I don't think, whoever you may lose, wants you to poison yourself and not enjoy life.

Some people can never have children, some people never will. If you can, you probably will in the future, but if you can't, there are plenty of children who have no parents. Point is there are always options, we are all connected, and whether we like it or not... every ending has a beginning... and every beginning can begin again.

...at least, that's what I think.
I hope this helps, and welcome.

that help a lot and thinking of the good times is the best idea thanks. have bipolar is hard to delle with some time i go up and down. but i'm prity leved out bey my meds. but sometimes i just need some one to talk to besid my mom on thing and other apinen tike the one you just gave me on this one. thanks again. and i feel happy to be in the group.

Me and my ex had one still born at five months this December just gone, so I can go some way to understanding how it feels. I don't think the loss is ever going to quite go away and I don't think I'd really want it to either, but with time everything gets easier. Hang on in there, everything works out in the end.

yea i can see it that way. its been 2 years thouw so i'd don't think its gotten any easier for me. at lest not yet. i hope your right and every thing will work out in the end becase i don't think i'm going have any more. but i hope your right and my dream comes true and i have a baby some day.